Depression and eating disorders are more common than many people believe. A common question that surfaces among those people faced with these problems is that they are always so sad and they seem to feel as though they will never find a way to be happy again.
The truth is that hope exists for everyone who feels as though they are stuck in these situations! Sadness is a natural part of everyday life. Bad things are going to happen, whether it is losing a job, losing a loved one, the loss of a relationship, financial struggles, or just the simple every day blues. The key when learning how to fight those "always so sad" feelings is to remember not to live in the past. Many times when bad things happen it is very easy to fall into the trap of constantly dwelling on that sad event and giving it the power to control your life from that moment forward. This type of behavior, while common, is the first thing that needs to change in a person who is battling depression.
Let's take an example: Jane was in a long-term relationship with her boyfriend Joe. After five years of dating, Joe came to Jane and told he no longer felt the same way about her and wanted to break up. Now of course Jane is going to be devastated. She truly loved Joe and saw herself with him for the rest of her life. This is the point where Jane needs to take a step back and look at the true facts of her situation. Yes, it is sad that Joe left her, but is it really the end of the world? Is Jane really not going to be able to find happiness anywhere else in her life? Was Joe honestly the only source of happiness that Jane ever had? Obviously not!
Jane is at the point where she needs to assess her situation and make the decision not to live in her past. Yes, she enjoyed her time spent with Joe and all of the memories they have together, BUT, her life is still going to continue. Jane needs to take some time to think about the benefits to her new situation. She is now a young, single woman with nothing holding her back. She can still make her dreams come true. That dream job she always wanted but could never have because it required traveling and leaving Joe behind? Now, Jane is free to chase after that job and excel at it. There is always a bright side to the sad things in our lives. We simply need to be proactive and make the choice to focus on the positive aspects of life that still exist despite the sadness.
There is nothing wrong with taking your time to grieve, but the key is to remember that once that event happens, it is part of your past. It can only control you for as long as you allow it to.